We live in a relational universe. That means every aspect of it exists in relationship with some other aspect(s). We have discovered no exceptions to this. Whether we look at the tiniest subatomic particle or the most distant galaxy, everything is in relationship with something else. Every single action involves   partners, interaction, complementary bonds, give and take.

This is common sense. There’s no new insight in this. However, what we may not have put in the proper perspective is the question of quality.

Interactive relationship is going on everywhere. A baseball game is all about interactive relationships, but so is war. Enjoying your favorite TV game show or beating your spouse; they are both manifestations of relationship. What makes the difference in the experience of the interaction and in the outcome? Quality.

We are referring to the quality of interaction (amount of energy, precision, continuity) between the initiator (subject) and respondent (object) partners. But even more fundamentally, we are referring to the inherent quality (level of character, virtue, completeness) of each one of the two partners themselves. What kind of character/personality does each bring to the relationship? This will largely determine what kind of interaction will take place, and how effectively each will manage the interaction and respond.

Thus, quality on all levels is the determinant of what kind of dynamic is being generated and experienced as well as the outcome of that interaction, be it caring for people or killing them.

Please comment on any aspect of this perspective on relationships that speaks to you. Please add to our understanding on this important topic.

Looking at current relationships in your own life, how does inherent quality measure up in terms of your preparedness, personality, motivation, attitude.

Have you observed similar outcomes across various relationships you have experienced that might reflect back on your inherent qualities as a relationship partner?  In what areas are there concerns? What might be done about them? 

What are some significant ways the quality of subject and object, in terms of human personality and interaction, impacts our society? What can be done about it?

Please share your thoughts below.